Thursday, June 02, 2011

let me explain


A while ago Sadie was planning a costume for a birthday party she was attending (a "halfway to Hallowe'en" theme - awesome idea!). She wanted to be a lamb, which somehow meant she needed a bolero, and after telling her I couldn't possibly knit one in time she agreed that a sewn bolero would be perfect. I had a Fabricland errand anyway, so I figured Sadie would enjoy coming along and picking her own fabric. We had discussed the bolero being pink and I imagined finding jogging fleece or jersey in a solid pink. Perhaps you can already see where this is heading.

We get there and I spot jogging fleece ends that are perfect. Trouble is, the bin right next to the ends is full of hideous crushed velvet bolts, all with horrid patterns - the kind that are burned into the velvet if you know what I mean. This is fabric that doesn't even register in my vision as I walk past it...but it stopped my six year old right in her tracks. Any thought of pink flew out of her mind as she fixated on silver. With snowflakes. In crushed velvet.

I tried a few tricks I'm not so proud of. Worst was telling her it was too expensive (while I'm loading up on fleece ends with no destined purpose), and I kid you not, a sales lady walked by at that exact moment and said, "oh, it's on sale right now too". Defeated. But there was a moment when I heard myself forcing my own style and wishes upon my sweet little girl and I stopped. Grabbed the bolt and said we'd make this work. Not surprisingly, Sadie was super excited.

On the way home we brainstormed how snowflakes might work with a lamb costume until we landed on Sadie being a Snowflake Fairy. So by the time we walked in the door, my unfortunate reaction was forgotten and Sadie was thrilled with her costume idea. Sewing with the fabric was absolutely awful, but the resulting bolero is what Sadie called "the most favourite thing I've ever made her". This whole episode made me appreciate my own mom all over again, because even though her style is far more in line with Sadie's, she accepted my plain and simple tastes while I was growing up. We may have had moments like Sadie and I just did, but my overall memory is that she never forced her styles on me which allowed me to be confident in my own opinions. And Sadie should feel proud of her love of all things sparkly and silver, just like her grandma.

This mothering thing sure isn't easy. And I should say, Sadie was a beautiful Snowflake Fairy.

5 comments :

ltrsktr said... [Reply to comment]

This is a great story and you know what, you actually made it look good. It's kinda like you gave the fabric a new destiny.

Sascha said... [Reply to comment]

I loved reading this. Luca picks out hideous stuff and I cringe. Mostly I let her get away with it, but I am not beyond tactics that you most likely employed. Growing up I had awful taste and my mom was the very simple elegant type. She let me choose what I liked and it turned out that as an adult I have quite plain taste for myself.

Steph said... [Reply to comment]

My mom loved to try to force her fashion sense on me and I was a plain jane. It ended the day I came out of the dressing room in a pleated plaid skirt and she had to admit that it was, indeed, hideous on me.

I'm scared to have a girl who likes girlie things.

lamb-things said... [Reply to comment]

Bless Sadie's little heart, tell her gramma absolutely loves her bolero and I am very proud of her mom.

Bending Birches said... [Reply to comment]

oh, I;ll bet she was:)
found you on ravelry...I am aso a huge wool fan:):)